Have this place that feels like it should 100 percent giving he. Whatsapp to book, notify them when I arrive, they unlock door, very very little draping, as close to the junk as they can get without touching. I give them all the signs I am enjoying and would like more, but I get nothing. What am I missing?

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      Asking right off of the bat when you’re in the lobby or on the phone is absolutely a no no. But once you’re on the table, asking in the right way doesn’t seem to be out of bounds.

      Just do it in the right way. Don’t be an aggressive asshole about it and take no for no. Don’t let them take advantage of you though, if you aren’t getting what you want, don’t be afraid to say no thank you. And if you end a massage without getting additional service? Don’t be afraid to not tip like you didn’t get additional service. For me, that means that if you’re paying 60-70 for an hour massage, a 30-40 tip is fine. Don’t be a cheap ass trying to give them 10 or anything like that, but don’t pay them for service you didn’t receive. For my area, bare minimum for additional service is 60, so keep that in mind. It can obviously vary depending on your area and your tolerance for being assertive. Just don’t be an asshole about it.

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      That is definitely a possibility given that OP has been there three times with no action.

      I’m a newb to this but with the little experience I have, it seems like it is obvious when a place does offer additional services. Hours going past 8pm, generic name, a door bell and/or mantrap before going in, cash only, these things all seem like obvious signs. I’ve been to 5 different massage parlors in my life, four of them being AMPs, and three of those offered additional services. And one of them I’m sure I could have gotten additional services from if I was interested but the MT was just not my cup of tea so I didn’t even try.

      It feels like there was something here that just made the MT hesitant to offer anything else.

      But also in my limited experience there are so many options that if you are in a medium sized city at least in the US, you can find a place that does offer services. So there is no reason to worry about one that isn’t giving you what you want. I’ve gone from being nervous about it to mostly not worrying. The two places that didn’t give me what I want still at least give good massages so I still got something out of it. Hopefully OP finds what he is looking for.

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    I know what you mean. If you’ve gotten HE at this point you know how to hint or even ask. You know all the signs and then sometimes you still just end up with nothing. It’s worse when you find an MT you really like. If online research comes up negative (see pinned post here with websites to search) and you ask the 3rd time and get nothing, I’d move on. Even normal (especially AMP) places can happen to touch your balls and get you all worked up when massaging your ass, it’s very common and easy to do and not a big deal. Even if It feels sensual or like a tease it doesn’t mean they’ll go further. Maybe we’re both doing it wrong but more likely it’s time to move on

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    I had a similar experience the week before last. They even had one of those ads on STG that made it seem like what I was looking for. They also were labeled as having a table shower when they didn’t.

    Thankfully the MT was not my cup of tea. Was not attractive in the least. But the massage itself was good so it was all gravy.

    But as far as you in specific it’s very hard to say. How was your body language? Were you awkward? Did you arch up when they did the ass brush? Do you look or dress like a cop?

    Those are the only things I can think of.

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      yes arched, moaned when she got to all the right spots. Is that bad? Not sure what a cop dresses like. Wore shorts and golf shirt, but removed all clothes before I laid down. 3rd time visiting, figured the first 2 times was her just making sure I wasnt a cop. Now I am stumped. Luckily the massage is pretty good but she knows how to drive me crazy.

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        Hmm, I’m not sure then. From my limited experience it sounds like you should be fine. And three times should be more than enough time for them to know you aren’t a cop.

        Have you brushed or grabbed their legs and ass while they’re near your head? Maybe brush a finger up and down in an obvious way and then if there isn’t a negative reaction grab and rub their leg with full palm?

        But honestly after three times with no action it might be time to just blatantly ask after the flip or move on.