Like, why does a gym attract so many dickheads. I’m just there minding my own damn business when I overhear dudes talking about how they are ‘going to get so much pussy for lifting’ and whatever dumb shit. It’s a constant stream of male garbage coming from all around you. My fault for not wearing headphones I guess.

Is that why you lift? Really? Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children? Fucking hell man. Who unironically talks like that? I know I’m probably in a bubble as a sober, vegan communist but still.

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    the western world, especially anglos, have a bizarre relationship with health and fitness. like others have said, the focus has been from increasing health to image, something these people are obsessed with. this is why i prefer to workout at home, this capitalist way of thinking is prevalent everywhere but at its worst at the gym.

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        yes, this is true. you see in short form videos “you must consume x amount of this” or “you must do x workout this many times”, it’s why you see so many clones wearing the same gear parroting the same stuff may sometimes even have an adverse effect on health.

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          Defo, makes me glad I ditched protein shakes a while ago, a study found that far too many have a heavy metal concentration worth being concerned about… I remember hearing RFK Jr’s team defunded the team that held a study confirming that… so yeah :/

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    Threads like this make it really obvious as to why the right wing has so much success pulling men in, when the left criticizes all of them for wanting to just be fit. It’s pretty well known this mentality is due to right wing propaganda yet here is another thread of “all men that go to gyms are just dumb assholes.” Again we devolve into attacking the people instead of the system that causes this. Let’s not do anything to build up a healthy masculinity on the left. Let’s just berate them and drive them further to the right. It’s hilarious how easy we make the rights job for them.

    Leftists: “Why gym bros driven to the right?”

    Also leftists: “Hey let’s have another entire thread calling men stupid, vanity driven, sexist assholes for stepping foot near a gym.”

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      Nobody is criticizing men for wanting to be fit. I actively encourage them to do so. However, an urge to be fit does not necessary means you have to become an misogynistic asshole. You build positive masculinity by revealing the fascist nature many gym bros currently have and offer an alternative.

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      when the left criticizes all of them for wanting to just be fit.

      Who here is criticizing men specifically for wanting to be fit? Point to the comments in question, let’s see it.

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    Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children?

    Yes sadly, right wing media apparatus targeted men’s fitness pretty hard around 2016, barely any progress has been made to decouple the two :(

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    They also tend to uhh, put down people who are overweight for trying to excersize. Im not a very strong person, but I had to restrain myself from attempting to knock two people the fuck out for saying “look at that loser” to someone who was working out at the gym.

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    Are most gym bros just terminally insecure man children?

    Most men are terminally insecure man children…

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        Yea it kinda did…

        The idea that dying in war or from incurable illnesses at a manufacturing job makes us manly men didn’t leave much space for emotional maturity.

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          Its completely a disaster I agree, plus anger is the only socially accepted emotion for men to have. Its so strange, sadly it will take a long time for equity between the sexes to bring equality but I do have hope because as much as the fascists in the west want us to believe the world is ending, it is not, just theirs is, and thats okay

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    going to get so much pussy for lifting

    Body dysmorphia is rampant amongst gym bros. Not getting laid is the driving force. Internet market delivers toxic results. Also, yes dudes can be that dumb.

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    I learned a long time ago that I need to wear headphones in the gym, on planes and on trains. Human beings in general are pretty fucking stupid, it’s not limited to the gym or to men.

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        Why does my perspective upset you so much? Are you one of the morons having loud, senseless conversations in public?

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          You think you are far more important than you really are if you believe your comment on a forum on the internet upsets me. I do like to have conversations with my friends in public, yes. I even like to meet and converse with people I have not met before, something which one might find challenging if they have a lions’ ego in a mouses body. You just sound like a removed who thinks they are smarter than the rest of the world. Get off your high horse, and learn to socialise. I commented because clearly you needed an intervention from someone before you go fully crazy

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            I don’t go to the gym or fly to socialize. Me wearing headphones shouldn’t perturb you as much as it appears to, no matter how much you protest that it doesn’t. You wrote a lot of words for one who doesn’t care.

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              I couldn’t give a damn what you do with or without your headphones on, having an attitude that humans in general are stupid is where you lose me, using a lot of words does not change that. Why are you even on a forum connecting communists if you do not believe in the capability of a collective human race? You sound like a maladapted freak

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                Why are you being a jerk to some internet stranger? Your thread reads more like a you-problem that you’re projecting on others.

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                  I just cannot jive with someone who thinks that human beings as a species are stupid, point-blank. That is a useful (incorrect) excuse to sweep away the consequences of real systemic choices made by pro-capitalist governments of the past and present, which have brought us into this position we are in. On this same comment fork, I respond to the binary person on why there is a distinction between talking about gym goers in the western sphere of influence and humanity…

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                But it was okay for OP to dismiss male gym goers are being stupid based on one coversation. Interesting logic that.

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                  Making sweeping declarations for the capacity about the majority of humanity is not the same as observing a trend within arguably the most propagandised subset of western society. One makes you, a self aggrandising loser, seem up your ass, and the other is an interesting phenomenon worth talking about.

                  Since 2016 definitely, but even before, the billionaire class has invested in pipelining young insecure boys/men who are interested in fitness into an adjacent form of purity culture. As a result, lots of those people are very rigid, from diet to their political beliefs, which tends to lean right wing. See Joe Rogan/Andrew Tate and their audiences.

                  Also, words and beliefs harbour the capacity to bring reality to them, if I drop to your level and believe most humans are too stupid (instead of intentionally undereducated, and fostered in a culture not designed for individual growth by its government) I will stop bothering to care and try to help bring change. You might not admit it, but everyone else sees you as a cancer. So fuck off you loser. Go fly or something

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    I know I’m probably in a bubble as a sober, vegan communist but still.

    I mean yeah. It’s a good bubble to be in, if one is going to have to be in a bubble, but there is a lot of reactionary bullshit out there…

    It’s weird to be aware and to be trying to do something about it, and also live within that stuff. Reminds of the following line from when I was trying to read through: https://en.prolewiki.org/wiki/Library:No_Free_Left

    E. M. S. Namboodiripad found a flaw in Ningal Enne Communistakki. The characters, he wrote in 1954, “are puppets with no relationship to living communist activists.” Where are the voices of the dalits, the adivasis, the worker and the peasants, the heart of the communist movement? Thoppil Bhasi, Namboodiripad felt, had not adequately addressed the struggle to become a communist which often runs through several phases – fighting one’s circumstances, certainly, but then the break with established ideologies, ability to find activities to do to contribute to the struggle while living in this world. In close-knit communities at the nether end of the social order survival is an anxious business and social humiliation is a constant hindrance. The communists who emerge out of these worlds are often talented and bright – those who could make lucrative careers and could be the shining lights of their communities. Yet, they chose to go to the trenches of political battle. They refuse to leave their world, but in adopting the transformative social agenda of communism they remain within at a curious distance – unwilling to conform to conservative social trends. What Namboodiripad seemed to indicate is that communists live a double reality – fighting against this world to make a better future, and living in this world within one’s social order. To inhabit the present and the future is a stern burden on a communist. None of this comes out in the art on communism – too middle class in its orientation, only able to see the Maoists or the communists as figures of romance. It makes it so much easier to disdain them when the romance fades.

    (bold emphasis mine)

    And I would add, unlike the concept of a cult and other formations that emphasize a sense of superiority as a justification for being outside the norm, communism has no such mental buffer exactly? Instead, there is I think more of a humbling going on and an uncovering of scientific ruggedness in existence that might otherwise be more softened or hidden by fanciful ideologies of elitism and false promises. It is like you are seeing the raw nerve endings of society and watching as a steady diet of fast food is paved over with running a lot (figuratively speaking). But you can’t simply pretend you exist outside it and act from a safe vantage point. You’re in it even as you try to change it and are awash in its influences on you.

    Idk if that makes sense, but I’m trying to get at something that is hard for me to put into words.

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    I have a theory: Just do sports, don’t lift, at least not as your main form of exercise. I have always felt that women can somehow smell it on the guys, I dunno.

    The funny thing is that while most male Americans (and increasingly Westerners in general) are fat (which isn’t attractive to most straight women) the maximum body for getting the ladyfolk is not that much muscle and you should be slightly underweight but not shredded.

    The biggest thing about a great physique for attracting mates is confidence, and for men it ends up creating a really fucked up body dysmorphia. I worked at the university gym during college and let me tell you the bizarre things I heard like some guy refusing to go ask a woman out that was sending him all the signs of attraction because they were embarrassed that their calf muscles were too small or upset that their lats weren’t looking better.

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      I heard like some guy refusing to go ask a woman out that was sending him all the signs of attraction because they were embarrassed that their calf muscles were too small or upset that their lats weren’t looking better.

      She dodged a nuke ngl

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    Yeah a lot of gym bros do it for vanity nowadays and the rise of steroid usage proves it. It’s disappointing to see the route mainstream fitness has taken nowadays but it was to be expected in a capitalist society.

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    Stupidity and lack of self examination are the rule, not the exception… but if they had heard that God really wanted them not to fornicate nor be adulterous and were surrounded by people who believed it so maybe, just maybe, whatever desires they had would’ve been channelled into monogamy, initially through peer pressure perhaps and eventually thanks to maturity and love for their partner as a person and not a tool for satisfaction.

    What I meant by this is basically: few people will spend time of their day pondering about the ethical decisions they have made and will make, as they naturally don’t gravitate to philosophy nor do they have the ease of thought that would make it a more pleasurable experience. And while a serious, self respecting intellectual might reach some moral conclusions ‘naturally’, the 99 others require an easy set of rules and a fear of inescapable punishment to act right on many occasions. This is why Catholicism, which is nothing more than a parasite wearing Jesus’ skin, failed to provide an ethical framework to the West: either “you’re already saved” or you can just go to the priest and tell him you did something wrong (while never fixing it, apologising to the other person or facing the punishment of the law for it…) and you’re all good, nothing to worry about, God forgave you touching your little niece, lol.

    Anyway, TLDR: it’s sorta disappointing but keep in mind that the software can be easily changed in a generation or two. Those lacking in hardware have and will continue existing, but if we all agree on a set of basic rules and values, we can all live together in harmony and without disrespecting others.

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      This is an incredibly bad take.

      Objectifying women as nothing more than their sex organs referring to having sex as “getting pussy” is incredibly misogynistic. Denying that gyms are a hot bed of misogyny is just silly.

      Thinking that having more casual sex is what will save the western left is fucking ridiculous.

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        Absolutely, and while I wouldn’t commend policing everyone around you’s language, if I heard a friend use that kind of phrase I’d definitely make a mental note that I need to have a conversation about masculinity with them.

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            His comment is harmless in the grand scheme of things.

            Not a very dialectical take lol

            I agree that it is pretty minor by itself, but seriously, men acting this way consistently is the death by a thousand cuts that keeps women out of a lot of spaces. There’s nothing wrong with identifying it and countering it.

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              acting this way consistently is the death by a thousand cuts that keeps women out of a lot of spaces.

              Oh no, actually, I’m being dumb, I just reread the post thanks to this. I assumed op’s gender like an asshole. My bad.

              I do think the debate could be slightly different if OP was male, and there was no one else around but that’s not relevant

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                Pretty sure OP is male though (apologies if I misconstrued this) and I don’t see how that should matter here either way. Overhearing this sort of talk is grating and disturbing regardless of your gender, it’s always crude, dehumanizing and infuriating to put up with, to varying degrees I’ll grant you but it doesn’t become less or more acceptable based on your identity, it’s always bad.

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          I’m not arguing against casual sex. I am arguing against dehumanization of the opposite sex and your bizzare assertion that “anti-sexism” is going to be the death of the wester left. (if that would even be substantially different from its current state)

          The western left are not anti-sex. If you aren’t getting any that isn’t an ideological failing of everyone else.

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          He wasn’t saying that casual sex is wrong, he said using that phrase is wrong because it reduces women down to just their genitals. There’s obviously a line you gotta draw between being cool with people expressing sexual desires, and letting those desires clash with others’ humanities.

          And yes, it would be a bit ridiculous if you made a scene every time you heard a man use a phrase like that, just like it would be ridiculous to make a scene every time some white person made an unwitting racist comment. But you gotta learn to spot things like that and counter them when you have conversations with men you trust.

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            I misinterpreted their comment and wasn’t really looking at the big picture.

            and letting those desires clash with others’ humanities.

            I don’t think it’s an inherently dehumanizing phrase in every context but maybe I’m just being needlessly contentious. I agree that it’s not something anyone with social awareness would say

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                Would you say getting good dick is dehumanizing? I understand that gender dynamics are different in our patriarchal franework but in a vacuum it is not inherently dehumanizing in any significant sense