Quitting jobs
Everyone has a job they don’t like and whenever someone complains about the job that they do, there’s always are going to be handfuls of people saying “QUIT UR JOB!” not really caring about whether it’ll benefit the complainer or not.
Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets. No savings. No jobs lined up. Nothing planned. You are putting yourself back to a place of uncertainty and it’s not pleasant when that countdown starts. That countdown is tied to how much you have left to cover your expenses fully until you get another job and how long those expenses will pile up.
Because all it takes is one or two missed paychecks to upset your financial stability and the system you’ve made in how you pay for things.
For some people, unfortunately, quitting jobs is not as simple of an option. People are just jammed into where they are because their job market is poor or it’s highly competitive even when they went to college for that job.
At first sign of calamity immediately stock up on toilet paper.
Believe in Karma. Life is not fair. It never will be.
Anything that boils down to “stop thinking”. For example “have faith in the future”, “follow your guts”, “YOLO”.
Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.
Some of them are good advise, but like any advise take it with a grain of salt and get to the core of the advise and that is what often goes missing.
Yolo is a good thing/example if we are talking about life experiences and just experiencing them. But that doesnt mean you should jump of a bridge without any safety cords or doing coke everything for the kicks haha.
It essientially means that if you can, do something new (safely) so you enjoy life instead of only living it.Same holds for the other examples you gave.
“Don’t take that raise, it’ll put you in a higher tax bracket!”
Some people who don’t understand tax brackets actually believe this is good advice.
In the UK there is a point between 100 and 125k where the tax levels of being in that region make it more financially prudent to do pension salary sacrifice or a similar scheme. You should still take the pay rise obviously.
Edit: To illustrate it I think the marginal tax rate jumos to ~60% or something like that between 100-124k. but then moves back down to 47% after you earn over 125k for some reason.
The same people who think they pay federal tax dollars cause they never realize they get it all back and then some.
I’d say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.
My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it … but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn’t actually discussed finances with them.
Maybe not poor at its core, but poor phrasing nonetheless: “just be yourself!”
What we should say is: stop trying to force yourself to fit in. You are enough as you are. Embrace your quirks, passions, and individuality without feeling the need to conform to what others expect. It’s not about “just being yourself” in a vacuum; it’s about freeing yourself from the pressure to mold into something you’re not.
The beauty of authenticity is in the courage to show up as you are, without apology.
This also depends on the society you are living in. Good luck with “being yourself” in north korea, or even any east asian countries.
The retort to that is, “be yourself, unless you’re and arsehole, then be someone else”
All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn’t require losing their individuality.
Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don’t understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.
I think “Just be the best version of yourself” is a better phrasing.
Not sure I like the word “just” though. Not as empowering as it could be.
I really like this answer! Absolutely gorgeous response. Confidence is massively important for being happy with oneself, and that starts by understanding you are a singular original human.
You have one soul mate out there. One true love. One person, so you better compromise to make sure it works. Especially when the alleged “one” is telling you to comply. That way lies abuse.
“God will bring the right person into your life”
I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don’t even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don’t understand.
I guess maybe if it’s the pizza delivery guy or something…
"I’ve sent Bill, who’s a really great guy btw, back to Home Depot three times to buy a part that he already has two of at home but your dumb ass just sits on the couch every night instead of thinking ‘gee, I should probably repaint my hideous living room.’ But you know what? It’s fine. Bill deserves someone who will actually take some initiative instead of sitting there binging Grey’s Anatomy every night like ‘GoD wIlL bRiNg ThE rIgHt PeRsOn InTo My LiFe’. --God (Probably)
Getting married, thinking it’ll improve your situation. Nope it’ll just solidify what’s there.
a good marriage drastically improves your life. a bad marriage will obliterate it.
Sorry for your luck.
“Listen to your body” No, that’s how you get fat. Your body wants to build up fat! That’s how we survived famines. Famines that don’t happen anymore.
Listen to your doctor instead 👍
Listen to your body as in observe your body and how it responds to activity, certain foods, medications and environments. That’s good advice. There are many bad doctors out there.
Listen to your body, assess how its feedback comports with your goals, then use your brain to decide what to do.
Listening to the body is a rule of thumb. If you feel bad after eating/drinking something it’s probably not good for you. If you cough from something in the air it’s not healthy to inhale.
It’s especially true in high octane workout culture like cross-fit, if it hurts then don’t continue, this is how you end up with a herniated disc.
That being said, if you’re on heroin you shouldn’t listen to the body. Same with cigarettes, junk food, sugary drinks, candy etc. because the body is a dopamine whore.
Listening to your body is meant in the context of over-exercising though. It’s not a blanket get out of exercise card. That’s called “listening to your brain”.
That is not bad advice
You want to listen to your body because it tells you way more things than just feeling hungry. That is a gross simplification of that suggestion, almost assuming human bodies are machines.
Bad advice in this context is saying “you are gonna be happier if you lost weight” or “you are gonna look better if you lost weight”. That is extremely personal and changes person to person, some might even feel worse.
Listening to a doctor’s concerns is for everyone with no exclusions, but feeling good in oneself’s body is another different topic that needs to be tackled appropriately.
Don’t listen to food adverts. Broccoli doesn’t have a marketing budget.
famines are increasingly likely.
Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets.
I quit work at 35 and now 58. My only regret in life is not quitting earlier. I get mo pensions or welfare or inheritance, I’m just mindful of spending and ever since I was 19 I invested small amounts of surplus income in stocks and shares that ballooned over the decades to large amounts.
Frugality includes all the other virtues.” – Cicero
With that age you experienced most of the stock explosions and multiple splits (e.g. Amazon, Apple, Broadcom, Nvidia etc.).
No way in hell I could live from my 10k of stocks on dividends and I am aggressively investing as I still am allowed to live at home (graciously btw) to build up some savings.
Follow your dreams
This episode is pure gold!
Compare yourself to the people you see in the movies.
You never see Lara Croft or John Wick get the hiccups. If you do it’s because you’re a jerk and everyone will laugh at you.
creatural realism. thats why i love die hard, hero gets hurt a lot.
Runs 100 yards barefoot through broken glass.
Obligatory: “YOLO”, it is true we only live once – so make it count.
“Big boys/girls don’t cry”
This is some archaic-level advice similar to “pull up your bootstraps” that most people may have these already ingrained as part of growing up. It is fine to cry and show others [you trust] your feelings, no matter how old you are. More importantly, the better advice is to “take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being” and “be kind to yourself”.
Eat less, move more
Not bad advice at all.
if it moves, bet on it. if it doesnt, eat it.
You should share everything with your SO. No. Don’t share finances…
Totally disagree, however it does depend on what stage of life you’re on. Straight out of college, sure, married at 50, I would say “no”.
I’ve been married almost 25 years and we’ve been sharing finances since before we were married, but we both started with nothing, and we both had college degrees and equal paying jobs out of college, so there was no real disparity of finances.
You’re with the wrong person then
Why not? Having two paycheck going into one place seems like it would make things easier, since you’d only have to deal with one set of accounts. And if something happens to your SO, you already have access to the finances and don’t have to worry about getting access while dealing with whatever happened
Have both. Things both use like wifi etc. gets paid by thr joint account, some savings also get placed in the joint account and stuff like fun money stays in both personal accounts.
How much money is put into the joint account can be up for debate (e.g. based on yearly salary 50% of each salary or fixed amount).
