Forgive me for the title and the post if it doesn’t follow established rules and terms, I’m still new to all this.

After the new year I’ve started frequenting AMPs. And I have had a good experience getting the typical L1 HJ experience. But I’m interested in more intimate services. Not FS, that doesn’t interest me much but more what I would call L2+. DFK, PM that isn’t rushed and rough, TUMA/DATO, and BBBJ.

I’ve managed to get FIMA easily enough but they are rushed and rough which hasn’t done anything for me. I want something slower and more methodical. Same with BJs. The one I’ve gotten has been a CBJ with plastic wrap and had so much teeth that it was not worth it.

I’m looking for something better. A slower and better FIMA or PM, and even what I consider the Holy Grail, a nice slow PM and DATO. Combined with either a BBBJ or a CBJ that isn’t just plastic wrap.

How have other mongers managed to get this? During the flip and deed I have become more direct in what I want but I still haven’t gotten exactly what I want. Does anyone have any tips? I am thinking about maybe going 90 min versus an HR and bringing my own flavored wrap, but does that plus more explicit instruction make sense or should I do something else? Is there anything that I should do with the wrap before hand? I’m in a medium sized city so these additional services aren’t advertised openly if that helps.

  • Scubascott1@lemmynsfw.com
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    5 months ago

    Maybe build to that over time? A lot of them won’t do what you are asking, they just keep it simple and try to stay out of trouble, so it’s probably going to be hard to find. But just ask or use gestures and say first soft/slow or can you do x… can use a phone to translate. If you find someone in an apartment you can talk about whatever you want. Otherwise it sounds like your providers are too mechanical and you are looking for better quality. For that I’d use reviews

    • throwawayaug@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      5 months ago

      Thanks, those are good suggestions and what I will try.

      Have you had good experiences using a phone for translation? I usually don’t bring my phone in and the one time I needed to use a phone for translation it was before the actual massage. Have you ever asked for the phone while on the table to better translate what you want? Did it work well?