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  • Here’s the issue, and these stories don’t swing to such prominence in what is now that perpetual firehose to the face of information we now have daily.

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    No one wants to invest years into what they assume is now their child, love, tears, hope, relief, and find out a few years in it might not be a done deal.

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    Hi, I’m her real mom. I was on drugs and not of sound mind when I signed those papers. I’ve cleaned up my life and now want my baby back. Thanks and all but here’s a subpoena. Wins in court after 4 years of what was supposed to be permanent adoption.

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    Hi, I’m his real dad. I never signed off on this. Sure I abandoned him, but now I’ve cleaned up my life and want to be a better man. I deserve this opportunity. Here’s a subpoena. Wins in court after 5 yrs of what was supposed to be permanent adoption.

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    What does a couple do to avoid this bullshit? You travel to an orphanage in another country, then leave.

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    If our system had permanence, I doubt this would even be a thing.















  • It’s a white thing. Nothing is a monolith, mileage always varies, but look at what, middle of the bell curve, look at what our culture does. Take a close, hard look at nursing homes. Many cultures don’t have them. We do. Why? Because each generation tends to have a “I have my own life to live” attitude.

    Get out of the house. No, really. What the fuck is wrong with you? Why are you still living at home? Are you deficient? Lazy? A mooch? Do you lack adulting capacity? What is wrong with you? Why are you 20(+) and still living at home? 30 and still at home? You probably don’t qualify as human any more.

    This attitude from the very people who then end up abandoned in a nursing home by these kids they pushed out, later. Some, loudly lamenting how their kids abandoned them there, never come to visit, and are now living in their house.

    Multigenerational is moving in, yes, but it’s not where things started, for sure. Some white parents even charge rent at 18.

    Mileage varies. My white family did none of this. My mom is in a mother in law apartment on my property. Her parents lived with us. I lived with her during college. And so on.

    But there’s a prevailing get out of the house as soon as high scho graduation hits, and an “I have my own life to live” attitude.