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sounds like you have a lot to learn yourself

Kids are never offered “life changing surgeries”. This doesn’t happen. Evidence very much suggests being trans is a genuine neurological condition that we are born with.

Our brains match our gender.

Brains are not necessarily binary.

We understand some of the causes.

“Risk” of being born trans seems to be partly genetic.

Our identities are stable.

The American Academy of Pediatrics is on our side.

Adults don’t regret surgery. And another study on the same.

Additionally, getting a diagnosis is a long process (and it’s not guaranteed that you’ll get one), and then actually getting treatment takes even more time (also not guaranteed).

Take breaks (ideally in the form of walks), explain the problems you’re trying to solve to people willing to listen or to inanimate objects (rubber ducking), and engage in as many different perspectives and ways to approach problems as manageable (as opposed to as many as possible).

Your subconscious will sometimes work on issues in the background as you take walks/take a shower/etc, and knowing different ways to organize and approach things will give your mind more ways to consider when working.

Working continuously on problems without taking breaks can trap your mind in little loops, where all you’re doing is trying to solve things in different variations of the same thing over and over, Escape the loop, and remember that you and your subconscious are parts of the same whole.