monsterpiece42

As a psychology nerd:

• the lack of understanding and empathy for others (even when their opinions are different or “wrong”

• The lack of understanding of how behavior is driven and encouraged to change.

• The comfort level with looking at something very complex and assuming you know it deeply in moments (referring to short form video “teaching” psychology and mental health stuff)

• The overall disconnect between the physical medicine community and the psychological/mental health communities (i.e. mental health is a huge driver in cancer, autoimmune, and other diseases)

• I could go on. Learning more is my passion but damn it’s so depressing when I begin to understand something and see the abounding ignorance on it

I’m guessing this is not a required demographic question in Canada.

Oh, good to know. I appreciate the info!

What’s AMP and why is it undesirable?

Leave now. Fuck your stuff.

1. get a cab

2. get a Greyhound to an area with a better outlook.

3. look for roommates in your destination city on the ride

Right now water because I’m at work. At home… more for sure.

Having a variety of drinks nearby is a common autism/neurodivergent thing (ask me how I know). Not sure if that applies to you but there but where they are all distinctly different… Uh maybe look into it lol.

It’s a funny thing, once the whole “boundaries” thing starts to click it sort of becomes addicting as you slowly realize “oh, I can say no to things I don’t like” or “I can ask for the things I wish I had”.

Eventually that leads to the secure attachment style (still working on this one myself). But since this began to “click” I have made 3 excellent friends that I don’t feel like I need to perform around and it’s wild to me.

Are you autistic/neurodivergent by chance? I am, and I read a book called “Unmasking Autism” by Devon Price, PhD and it helped a lot with this for me. Not sure if it would mean anything to people who aren’t though.

I recommend mindfulness training if you can. There’s a big difference between:

• “I’m a fuckup”
• “I feel like a fuckup”
• “I notice I feel like a fuckup”
• “I see that I wanted to label myself as a fuckup”

Brains and bodies will automatically attract to higher levels of comfort or peace, so you can start to see the trends in your mental health, it will literally pull you toward fixing it. It may not be a complete fix by itself, but you’ll be surprised how much it will do for you.

You are not your illness. Would you feel empathy for a friend with anxiety? Likely yes. If you give them that grace, why not yourself too?

I hope/am glad if this stuff helps.

Ooh, yeah, that changes things a bit for sure. I have seen services for motherboard repair on eBay. Maybe that’s worth a look?

If you are as handy as you say you are, just solder in a new jack. I’m guessing this is a Lenovo Legion based on the voltage. They are replaceable. I work in a PC shop and do them all the time.

Idk if this is valuable to you but it was to me so I’ll take a shot. This is about social anxiety but can apply to other types as well imo.

I learned that my social anxiety was because I would not stick up for myself. Anxiety and “fight or flight” are physiologically the same thing, so my anxiety was my body freaking out that I may be abused in conversation with no way to defend myself.

I spent years learning healthy boundaries and effective ways to handle conflict and confrontation and in my mid 30s I finally feel like I’m crawling out of the hole.

It’s a little annoying the thing I was anxious about and avoiding (conflict, embarrassment, making a scene if necessary) was actually the thing keeping me anxious in the first place but I’m glad I’m back on the climb out now.

I wish you luck in your journey, stranger.

Excellent!

Period every couple of weeks… lmao.

For every hour put “8am block” “9am block” etc and it will completely fill their calendar.

You could use a paper planner and refuse to use the calendar too.

Stuff like chatgpt. Stands for Large Learning Model

Hell yeah! Happy to help–it’s definitely a game changer for me and plenty of others. I wish you the best luck moving forward!

PS there is an app, and I think it’s $1. Worth throwing the dev something for their efforts imo!

I agree 100%. Not sure if it’ll helps you feel better but I’m “the” other person that has been saying this along with you lol. I’m a psychology geek and it is so completely obvious that’s what he has imo. I have noticed over the years that people don’t “get” NPD because it’s so counter-intuitive to a functioning human though.

I would actually argue that NPD is on average more dangerous than the ASPDs like psychopathy and sociopathy because it implicitly involves other people. Psycho/sociopaths want “something” and will do anything to get it but sometimes that thing they want may be fairly harmless. Like maybe they sometimes they just stuff so they’re thieves. Not great, but mostly a victimless crime. Narcissists specifically want admiration and to prop up that fragile sense of self but that always specifically involves other people, so they’re always going to be in proximity with others where the ASPDers may not.

Tldr, the doom Cheeto is a POS with NPD and I will lose exactly zero sleep the day he dies.

I work in a computer shop and talk to regular computer users all day everyday.

The average user might know what a browser is. Most don’t know that the Internet is outside of their computer.

Real quotes like this happen everyday: “I just get on the green one to check my Google”. Translation: I check Gmail using the Edge browser.

It took me 25 minutes the other day to explain what video chat was and that FaceTime is only one kind of it, and it’s only available on Apple devices, of which an HP laptop is not.

Do not underestimate the computer illiteracy of the common person.

By nature noticing these things repeatedly either comes from hypervigilance or having sensory differences that make you hear footsteps when others would not.

Obviously there are exceptions like if you live on a floor lower than someone or something.

Trauma, neurodivergence, or both detected!

I understand your plight. I drive a Miata and it can be scary sometimes.

I do appreciate “road blimps” as a saying. I have historically said “road whales” but road blimps is more fun to say.