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Cake day: June 6th, 2023

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  • What’s your reasoning for sorting people into bathrooms based on their genitals?

    I’m assuming you’re thinking it means someone is “done” with transition. It doesn’t work that way. A good portion of trans people don’t have genital surgery, both due to access issues but also simply not wanting surgery. And, then, depending on where you live, not having surgery may prevent you from updating your gender marker so you don’t have ID, either. (US citizens can change gender markers on passports/passport cards without surgery. Yes, this does mean you have people with different gender markers on different forms of ID.)

    Signed, a transmasculine person who was harassed in women’s bathrooms pre-social transition (never mind medical!). (ETA: I mention this because it goes to show this is ultimately about policing women’s genders–I was seen as “woman-ing wrong” while living as a woman. I have also been harassed in a gender neutral bathroom, believe it or not.)





  • This argument doesn’t make much sense and is honestly weirdly condescending to unhoused people. Donating money to an organization is almost surely the most efficient way to use that money, but it doesn’t follow that you shouldn’t give money to individuals. Unless you are really truly going to go home and send that $5 you didn’t give to a person to an organization immediately, that’s $5 that’s not helping anyone.

    There’s definitely an argument that organized giving should be directed to organizations (though folks deep into mutual aid would question whether something organized enough to have executives is the right place, but that’s more a philosophical question, I think), but when I give the singles in my wallet to someone of the subway or whatever, that’s not organized giving.




  • I was thinking more solo board games – I have roughly no TTRPG experience, though I’d be willing to try. (I last played D&D probably 20 years ago in high school. It was one of those things that I felt I was supposed to be into, but, when push came to shove, it wasn’t my jam. Now, that was also true of computer games and I like some now.)