

Welcome new admins, I can’t get my brain to be friendly right now (not related to you or any of this at all), so I’ll just leave it at I’m glad it isn’t anyone I have blocked, and good luck.
I’m in a really bad headspace right now due to irl bullshit, so I’ve not got around to and honestly don’t have the brain bandwidth to make my own post about this right now or even discuss it in any depth (nor to fully process what you’ve suggested in op), but this seems like an opportunity to bring it up if not as a general discussion, then at least for the admins of this specific instance to read and consider, I think it’s really important and something I’ve seen (and personally experienced) get people who are organisers and run communities to end up acting against their own community members and make the latter feel excluded and even unsafe, so I’m just going to leave this here.
The essays are titled “tyranny of civility”, they are a bit long, but yeah, I think really important especially on this instance where we (should) take abolishing oppressive structures, even within our selves, seriously:
E: There is also Social Power and the Oppressive Potential of Civility which is a later discussion by the same author about the series of essays, and their observations since to, in their words “hopefully highlight some issues that I believe are created by maintaining civility as an unquestioned social norm in a society where institutionalized and social oppression operates along a variety of dimensions.” as a kind of TL;DR (though still read the essays if you can)
Glad the essays got some appreciation. <3
And thanks, sadly no better, and genuinely thank you for the offer it’s really kind of you, but I think it’s probably all a bit much to put on a stranger…