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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • My two boys were like that in the beginning too. What seemed to help was two of the same dog beds next to each other. Each has his own “space,” not necessarily defined, they both sleep in whichever bed interchangeably, but it makes them feel like they have their own space. My dog beds also have a raised pillow section so it feels a little more separate.






  • I agree with you, I think Shaxs can do better. But I also think that maybe Shaxs used to be like Dr. T’Ana and feels some empathy for her. I’ll admit I was a bit kooky before I met my spouse, she recognized that my lashing out was a product of my environment and life experience and offered me a different perspective. She only knew that because she used to lash out for the same reasons and did many years of therapeutic work to get her back on track. So when she saw me hurting in the same ways, she offered me the roadmap she used and I’m a lot better for it. Maybe Shaxs feels this same way about Dr. T’Ana. He sees she’s struggling and indulges her because he loves her, but is also slowly chipping away at the hurt that they share.








  • You aren’t stupid, you’re naive at best, and that’s something you can build from. You can’t teach someone how to have a good heart. So don’t take this as a huge blow (emotionally, financially it’s ok to feel like this was a huge blow if you couldn’t really afford it) and just take this as a lesson in learning to filter out those who genuinely need help and those who don’t. If you really couldn’t afford it, yeah file a police report. Not sure if you’ll get your money back, but it might stop the scammers from doing it again to some other nice people.

    When I was a younger person, I was broke as all hell. But I managed to have an extra $5 that I was going to use for a nice lunch. (The first time I hadn’t skipped lunch in ages!) At the gas station, a guy approached me and pulled on the heartstrings. I even said, “this is my last $5.” He had absolutely no qualms about ripping out of my hand and driving away in his car that CLEARLY had enough gas in it for him to get away and wasn’t completely empty as he had told me minutes before. Lesson learned.

    Good people in genuine dire straits, don’t personally ask a stranger online for money. That’s why places like GoFundMe exist. If you want to make your local community better, walk around with an extra sandwich in your lunch box and give it to a different homeless person everyday. Pretty much never ever give money and only offer food and company.