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  • SantaClaus@lemm.eetoAsk Lemmy NSFW@lemmynsfw.comWhy so much hate?
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    1 year ago

    I think using your own Santa Powers is very good in this situation. Also, just want to say how messed up it is you getting hate over asking about why all the hate. Most of all on Lemmy, a place where we constantly pat ourselves on the back for not being as toxic as other places.

    I enjoyed reading the bit of background, but please never feel like tou have to justify anything or any personal choices to anyone on here. It’s your life, your choice and our luck that you choose to post the content that you do.

    I am surprised that someone even downvoted this comment of yours, like what about it ground someones gears!?

    I hope you keep giving bags of coal to these thirsty weirdly incel-vibe dudes giving you hate on here. And I hope the rest of us (the vast majority) get to enjoy the contents of the folder you mentioned for years to come - I know I’m looking forward to it.

    Keep up the great work!!


  • SantaClaus@lemm.eetoAsk Lemmy NSFW@lemmynsfw.comWhy so much hate?
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    1 year ago

    Maybe I’m late to the party.

    But first of all, it really sucks women go throught this kind of abuse here. Independently from if we like onlyfans let’s call them advertisement or bait posts or not, I think we need to be better than this as a community. The chill vibe is what most sets us apart from other places such as Reddit, and we really have to try to keep it that way. 

    Secondly, I think some people become incredibly inconsiderate as soon as their anonymous on the Internet, completely forgetting that they’re talking to real life people on the other side. My imagination suggests that this is just some angry incel dude, hating on you out of frustration, and I really do hope you never take it personally. I don’t mean to be kissing your ass either, I just really like mutual respect on the Internet.

     Is my username would suggest, I do need to browse these communities every now and again to see who the good and the bad girls are ;) I feel that most of the time it’s very clear if someone is an only fans poster or lets call them amateur posters. The quality let’s say of the bodies and the professional grade pictures usually gives it away. That being said, I regularly see the distinction between the women who are posting this only to post the link in the comments, and never reply to any of the (thirsty) dudes in the comment section and the content creators who take this community seriously and invest a lot of their time to engage with viewers. I would definitely consider you in the second category.

    On a sidenote, I am a mobile user on iOS, and I cannot see any bio of yours through Memmy. Or maybe I’m just a noob. I don’t use only fans, so it doesn’t matter to me, but I thought you should know people might not see the link.

    Long story short, keep up the amazing work. I think you really improve the community with both your content and your comments. Don’t listen to the haters, I hope the trend will die down. 



  • The really cool thing is - it doesn’t need to be easy, you don’t have to be ‘good’ at it in order to work. I highly recommend the ‘mindfulness for beginners’ course by Jeff Warren on the app Calm (30 times 10-12 minutes) If you prefer reading, he co-authored the book ‘meditation for fidgety skeptics’ which is also down to earth and humorous.  By the way, I’m in no way affiliated to him in any way, was just relieved to find someone with his style to ease me into it.


  • I’m no expert myself, but what it definitely can do is help you recognize the different symptoms that you can feel in your body that your brain recognizes as anxiety, that way you can kind of break the cycle of the body influencing the mind and vice versa. Then there is non-identification, which means that you kind of look at your anxious feelings, as if you are a spectator, not identifying with them. This way you realize you are not your feelings, but you have your feelings and can snap out of them way quicker and not get caught in a loop. It sounds kind of trivial when talking about it, but experiencing it can be quite profound. 


  • SantaClaus@lemm.eetoMemes@lemmy.mlRun! Run! Run!
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    1 year ago

    I hate to be the guy to say this on an internet forum. But mindfulness really does help. There are thousands of resources out there and finding one that is the perfect fit can be tricky. Most of them are to ‘new wave’ for me, but some are great and can really help with this.