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Cake day: March 21st, 2024

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  • I disagree. Scaled down to small and harmless it’s like handling kids. You explain what you don’t want them to do and what happens/you’re going to do if they continue. Now it’s crucial you go through with what you threatened them with.

    If you either don’t deliver on the “threat” or don’t act as you said you would, guess what happens? They just continue or it even gets worse.

    Of course it’s more delicate/difficult when handling with powerful and intelligent adults but it’s at least similar. Not issuing threats is just not communicating. If you then just act (violently), things are more likely to escalate.

    Edit: or back to the kids analogy: don’t tell them anything but smack them once they went too far: may help in that instance but they’ll just learn to better avoid you and do shit behind your back.