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  • Barbarian@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlwho is this?
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    > but I often wish for more connection with other people

    The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.

    I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.

    EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.





  • Hi all, wandering around random small Lemmy servers seeing if I can be of use. To pull communities into your instance, you need to first have someone subscribe. Useful picture in this comment, but basically you go to “Communities” at the top, and start a search with the full URL of the community you want (https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy, for example) and change “Communities” to “All” in the search options.

    Once you’ve clicked through to the community and subscribed, it’ll be pulled in forever. If you want to dig around for communities to subscribe to, go to the community finder.

    Good luck, and see you around Lemmy :)



  • Nope. You can subscribe/post/comment on any community on any instance. There is one small seam though: if you’re the first person to subscribe from your instance, you need to put in the full URL of the community (https://lemmy.ml/c/gaming, for example) to pull it into your instance.

    After that, everybody on the same instance as you will see it when searching for communities just like it was local.

    EDIT: Oh, forgot to mention: make sure the search is set to “All”, not “Communities” when you do this.





  • Barbarian@lemmy.mltoChat@lemmy.one*Permanently Deleted*
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    Lemme give you 2 scenarios to explain why defederation is an important option:

    1. An instance with views and forms of diacourse wholly incompatible with yours. As a hyperbolic silly example to illustrate, let’s say there’s a community of cultists who believe in Cthulhu. They encourage a steady diet of kidnapped babies, and ritual drownings. They brigade like crazy, and their moderators encourage them to do this. Anybody who doesn’t follow the great old one is an idiot, an asshole, and they express this in extremely vulgar terms. If they were a reddit community, they’d get banned. Here, they get isolated to their own little corner where they can’t scream obscenities at people.

    2. An instance with thousands of bots spamming out innocuous looking links that lead to malware. Again, if they were a reddit bot farm, (hopefully) they’d be banned. Here, as it’s an open source project and you can’t restrict who uses it and for what, defederation is the best you can do.

    Lemmygrad seems to be a bit of a target of defederation by many instances, and there’s probably some history there that I’m not aware of as I’m also new to Lemmy. Even though I may not agree with some of their hardline views, the users seem to be respectful when commenting over here on lemmy.ml, and the very few times I’ve commented over there, they’ve been cool. Consequently, I’m glad lemmy.ml federates with them.

    EDIT: I should probably state that even though I’m cool talking with the respectful users, had to block a few communities there. I don’t want to see the Death to NATO community cheerleading the Russian invasion, for example.



  • I guess by that definition I’d be an aspiring vegan :))

    The issue isn’t access to raw ingredients, when we have the time my gf and I do cook vegan food (we made a vegan butter “chicken” just a few days ago). The issue is when we go to a restaurant or order takeaway due to work obligations and being super busy, there are no vegan options and normally 1 vegetarian option laden with cheese.