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  • that’s true. however, you’re gonna have a tough time finding something to run on there that isn’t worse than discord by any reasonable metric.

    like, buddy, i get it. i also selfhost. but let’s not lie to ourselves. google drive is LIGHTYEARS ahead of collabora, matrix is a buggy mess, jellyfin – okay, well jellyfin is actually unironically better than netflix, but that’s assuming you have the technical chops to run a seedbox and the money to bulid a sufficiently beefy transcoding server (either that or put up with external video players, excessive bandwidth usage, and in some cases stuttering bc of software decoding), and you can either overlook the moral issues or buy everything on blu-ray, and ChatGPT and friends might suck total ass but they can still run circles around anything you can load into ollama.

    this is also ignoring the fact that you would need the technical know-how to self-host, which as techies we tend to underestimate. is docker easy for us? yes. is it easy for joe random who may or may not have ever intentionally opened his browser devtools? no. plus there’s still configuration files to think of. but even if you’re using one of those easy vps services that does all that for you, you’re still selfhosting a freaking chat platform. assuming you want to talk to anyone who isn’t an LLM, you’re going to have to either convince them to join your chat platform and then do moderation, or federate, in which case, what can you get from a single user instance that you can’t get by joining someone else’s instance and saving yourself a LOT of hassle?






  • for fuck’s sake, chill. they were calling out one specific trans person who was harassing people who weren’t using their preferred pronouns.

    Draconic_NEO thinks that while trans people are valid, and neopronouns like xe/xer are valid, neoprounouns like “drag” that refer only to a single person cease to function as pronouns. when a word refers exclusively to a single person, that word is a proper noun. Draconic_NEO also thinks that hounding people over failure to use neopronouns is not especially poggers. these are both very reasonable stances.

    by your comment history i’m guessing you’ve just started hormones. you’re definitely not the first trans girl who’s gone through a major emotional phase. hormones are running high – it’s no surprise you’re prone to lashing out. but i’d like to remind you that you’re saying that someone hates all trans people based on an opinion in reference to neopronouns, which are an entirely separate issue from the concept of transness and a contentious topic even among nonbinary people – an opinion, i might add, that that person has demonstrated they do not hold.

    personally, I’d advocate against someone being banned from the entire Fediverse if they said being gay should be illegal – and i am gay. people’s opinions can change, and permanent bans from entire platforms do nothing except make them more bitter and more hateful. you can ban assholes from communities, and if you disagree with the mods on whether someone should be banned, lemmy has a block button for a reason.

    more to the point, though, the point of the fediverse is, and has been from its inception, uncensorable freedom of speech. the fact that no corporation – and by extension no individual – can tell you what you can and can’t say, regardless of what that is, is literally the entire point. the fediverse is an unfathomably large place, not limited to the five or six instances you keep hearing about, and it is designed specifically so that it is impossible to completely ban someone. in fact, TruthSocial (Donald Tr*mp’s personal Tw*tter clone) is a Mastodon instance. the price we pay for nobody being able to tell us what we can and can’t post about here on fedi with regard to queerness is that we have no means to fight back against anti-gay/anti-trans dipshits besides defederation and the block button.

    also, pro tip: pinging someone over and over and calling them a hateful bigot, especially when they aren’t, doesn’t make them change their mind, it just makes them annoyed at you.