• areyouevenreal@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I think something is wrong with me then. When I start something early it normally ends up with me losing momentum part way through, stopping for ages, then having to work like mad at the end anyway. That or I end up changing project idea and having to start again. Both of these ended up happening with my dissertation.

    Like even when I start stuff at the right time it goes to shit. Somehow when I do stuff last minute it mostly turns out fine.

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      1 year ago

      Procrastination is good, it takes you were you naturally want to be and what you intuitively think is right. Starting early and forcing yourself through things you don’t care about is not productive.

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        But isn’t that like making excuses for yourself tho? I usually did the same as the parent commenter did. But if there’s an especially critical task that I cannot afford to ignore I use something like pomodoro timer to keep my attention span in check. Barring an external distraction – getting more of this as I’m getting more senior in my current work + kids when working remotely (⁠ノ⁠ಥ⁠,⁠_⁠」⁠ಥ⁠)⁠ノ⁠彡⁠┻⁠━⁠┻ – this method usually works.

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            It works, although you need to really stick to only working during the work time. I tried it when writing my thesis and miraculously I managed to work on it basically the whole day, from morning till night. Since then I’ve been using it sporadically when there’s an important work because for it to work for me I need to lock myself up so as to not get distracted by other people.

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      1 year ago

      Took me a long time to change the batteries in the smoke detector. Only did it because it stopped beeping. I too like to live dangerously

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    1 year ago

    Do not forget about the part where it constantly lingers overhead, and despite you thinking about it every moment and making every moment hell until you do it, you don’t do it until that last minute anyway.

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    I’ve often stated that Past-Me is always hassling Present-Me with reminders of things I’m supposed to do. That asshole just loves setting a ton of notifications to fire throughout the day, making me feel bad for being a lazy procrastinator.

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    Spent last two years trying to make my kid understand this, forcing a bit, being subtle, trying to explain, being a bit of an obnoxious parent …

    Last week he told me he’s doing the same work, with less work, and And having the weekend free.

    Do it parents. For you also it will be as rewarding.

    It is hard for both of you, so never forget it, be lenient when needed.

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    1 year ago

    Hi, dropping in to say that everyone who relates to this has undiagnosed ADHD. Getting diagnosed at 29 was life changing for me

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      1 year ago

      Literally everyone relates to this.

      If you believe something as common as this is sufficient to diagnose a mental disorder, you might’ve been misdiagnosed (or your diagnosis was explained insufficiently).

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        My friend, you think this likely because your family exhibits these traits (genetics) as do your friends(attracted to like groups). You’re using two ADHD meme traits, like thinking everyone feels this way and using extra parentheses (for bonus content). I bet you’ve also been told that you’re not living up to your potential (and that’s true!).

        If you want something objective, have a coffee or two at 6pm and see if you’re still able to fall asleep that night. The neuro typical folks would be unable to quiet down their brain.