Tbf, those are not mutually exclusive. I want to have sex with someone, preferably someone with whom I have a deep, stable, emotional connection.

I do understand it takes time to build that connection, and am fine with having sex with someone before we get to that stage, but at least ostensibly that’s the direction I’d like to be heading, and if it seems like we’re just not going to get there we can stop having sex and just be friends or even just be acquaintances that don’t really chill because we’re adults and have no time but still be friendly.

I think it used to be called dating back in the day but who knows lol.