• SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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    Women don’t want to be approached in public.

    Men learn this quickly.

    Also that speed dating stat is totally a lie, every dating event is a sausage fest.

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      It’s starting to change. It’s hardly the norm but speed dating events in New York, LA have had shortages of men.

      Especially with the terrible press and stories coming from them… men are starting to just not attend.

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          1. Historically only men showing up

          2. Only desperate people showing up

          3. Has anything good ever come from a speed dating event? I haven’t heard of one.

          They just don’t have a great reputation in general. I went to a speed friending event once and, ugh, that was not fun.

          To make matters even crazier, younger generations are also just… not even trying to hook up. Some studies are showing 45% of men age 18-25 have never even approached a woman romantically.

          Not succeeded, just even tried.

          Dating be incredibly fucking weird right now.

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            I fully understand and respect people just giving up on dating, it’s exhausting and demoralising. I also think a lot of women have unrealistic expectations of what dating will be like.

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              I don’t even know if it’s that.

              Gen Z didn’t give up on dating, that would imply that they ever tried it to begin with.

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      Most speed dating events don’t actually exist. It’s just a scam to collect money and put you on an indefinite wait list.

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      In high school, I tried to start dating a girl by asking for her Facebook account, but she rejected me. Something that women don’t understand is that constantly doing that is demoralizing. But I think that’s part of beign a male.

      Women don’t want to be approached in public.

      Bro, so how are we supposed to meet each other? Telepathy?

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        I assume the ones who say that will initiate their own relationships when they are ready.

        Clearly enough women are saying this that it’s having an effect.

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          There are women that would like to be approached, the issue is that we can’t tell them apart. And the ones who don’t like make such a fuss of it that men are not taking the chance anymore.

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        Like in the olden days. You raid a village with the boys and rape.

        Obviously joking, though keep in mind that warfare and the subsequent rapes was usually how nations kept populations up. Plus, families have more children the poorer and more devastated an area is for some reason. So…good news! We will all have a goth GF in post-apocalyptic America.

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          This is absolute made up nonsense, and yet it tells us so much about what kind of content you consume and what kind of attitude you have.

          Obviously joking… Haha… Unless…

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      Women don’t want to be approached in public.

      I think the problem is that men don’t want to be approached in public. Or in private, for that matter. Half the joke of this is how antisocial, short-tempered, and easily discouraged men are.

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        Please, approach me in public. I’ll be flattered even if you’re not my type and will treat you with the utmost respect. It happened in the past.

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        We have a tendency to assume other people think like us, so that would actually explain a lot.