As others pointed out, it might help if you elaborate on your position in the comments. This would make a healthy debate possible.
On the substance - I think sex before marriage should remain normal, and there are many benefits to it. For one, sexual compatibility is a big factor for many people when it comes to building lasting relationships - and you won’t know it unless you try. Better sexual chemistry improves long-term romance, improves mental health, and may also contribute to fertility, so this is not something to look over. Also, making such a big deal out of sexual relationships can make it more frustrating if they don’t go perfect right from the start - and being married, you are now trapped, which doesn’t really help.
If I want to marry a person, I want to know them as much as possible - I want to know them as a friend, as a lover, as a sexual partner, as a person to share household with, and many more. I’d love to see them as a parent, too, but this is too big of a commitment with other person’s fate on the line, so parenting goes after marriage. Sex does not have such properties, and I see no sense in putting that goalpost so far.
As others pointed out, it might help if you elaborate on your position in the comments. This would make a healthy debate possible.
On the substance - I think sex before marriage should remain normal, and there are many benefits to it. For one, sexual compatibility is a big factor for many people when it comes to building lasting relationships - and you won’t know it unless you try. Better sexual chemistry improves long-term romance, improves mental health, and may also contribute to fertility, so this is not something to look over. Also, making such a big deal out of sexual relationships can make it more frustrating if they don’t go perfect right from the start - and being married, you are now trapped, which doesn’t really help.
If I want to marry a person, I want to know them as much as possible - I want to know them as a friend, as a lover, as a sexual partner, as a person to share household with, and many more. I’d love to see them as a parent, too, but this is too big of a commitment with other person’s fate on the line, so parenting goes after marriage. Sex does not have such properties, and I see no sense in putting that goalpost so far.