For me, growing up, I was around people who saw games as useless and a waste of time, but I loved them

I’ve always been into computers and tech and was called techy and a gamer and each time, it was said with a sort of disgust from the person saying it.

It made me feel like I shouldn’t be friends with the few people like me, and I spent a lot of my childhood staying away from people, and making sure that people didn’t learn that I played games

Even now, I get slightly uncomfortable being called a gamer or techy or any synonym even though people don’t really think that anymore around here.

Anyone else have something similar?

  • toomanypancakes@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Growing up my parents always called me “the good kid”, especially my dad. It just made me feel super awkward and bad though, I didn’t take it as a compliment. These days neither of my other siblings talk to my parents anymore either, I’m the only one still in contact.

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      This really reminds me of my family dynamic. Anything I do, my dad can excuse, but the smallest mistake my younger brother makes is a travesty.

      I end up in the drunk tank, and my dad’s only answer is “it stinks in there, eh? 😂”

      My brother doesn’t reply to a text for a couple of hours, and it’s the end of the world.

      I hate it, because my bro is a good kid, ultimately. But I can see how much the way my father treats him affects him negatively. It ends up being a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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        5 months ago

        Tell him. If it comes from the good kid he must think there is some truth to it.

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        5 months ago

        That sucks. Your dad needs to watch Lord of the Rings and especially the Boromir, Faramir, Denathor dynamic.