Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice.
Out of 17 case managers, only 2 have been male. Female cms: detailed, logical, responsive, solution oriented, clear effective communication. Male cms, the opposite.
I try to communicate clearly, effectively, which is easy cuz autism, and the 2 male cms, i get constant 2nd guessing, passive-aggressive defensiveness. Get impression they’re automatically assuming I don’t think clearly, don’t know what I’m saying. It’s weird, and I can’t figure out why.
I know not all men are the same. I’m not like all women. Have I just been unlucky with these 2 cms, or is there a gender aspect to this I’m not understanding? I’d like to learn.
It’s because the male ones believe their courses have informed them, and turned them into “knowledge experts” who know better than you. Where as female case managers believe their courses have made them better at connecting people to their resources and practices.
In short, whether conscious or not, the courses they do have different gendered outlooks and effects of participants.
One group becomes entitled ro superiority, and the others becomes a more connected listener.
But it might also be because men lack the lived experience most compatible with your own, and it’s possible they’re better at providing for male clients.
…but really I think women are just likely better at the job, and more likely to be sensitive to the needs of others in a more consistent and accurate manner.