Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don’t know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I’ve been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.
What is your opinion on a woman taking a man’s beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.
I’m a girl, so ymmv, but I’m a huge believer in communication, enthusiastic consent in all things, and boundaries. This sort of breaks all 3 of those things, even though its fairly innocuous. I would be much more into it if there was explicit communication about it. “Could I try some of yours?” - this kinda doubles as a great way to check boundaries and consent (of you drinking from my glass), and also as a sort of double entendre if the vibe is there.
This is a great solution, a flirty way to check if it’s ok and, depending on deliverance, it would be more of a turn on versus just grabbing a sip (as a guy).