I just reached 112 myself.
I’m very much awaiting a time when users can block specific instances. I still don’t want to check the option to hide NSFW content, because I do want to see NSFW content that may show up on non-porn communities. Just not really interested in seeing so much porn in All.
You can check on your settings page, btw, in the Blocks tab - count quickly with Ctrl+F.
I just have nsfw as a whole blocked. I have other ways to see porn if I want to and I want to use Lemmy in places where my daughter or my boss won’t walk by and think I’m looking at porn.
If that’s your thing, go for it, but it is too much of a risk for me with little reward.
Married people watch porn?
Of course I watch porn. Do you think my wife has to drop her panties on command? There are times I’m feeling the need but she isn’t in the mood. Or isn’t around.
I was just surprised because jerking off to other women having sex while committed to one seems wrong. I didnt consider you two might have agreed on it. But I don’t agree its either porn or not having sex if your partner isnt around. You can just jerk off without.
Why is it wrong? You’re not cheating. It’s just fantasy. I haven’t stopped noticing other women who I think are really attractive either. I just don’t try to fuck them. Doesn’t mean I can’t imagine what it might be like.
Coincidentally, tomorrow will be our 23rd anniversary. You don’t stay married 23 years and never fantasize about what it might be like if your life had been different and you had been with a different woman.
It’s wrong because most of the time that isn’t something your SO will be ok with. If your wife is ok with it, thats that.
It is unreasonable to not be okay with fantasizing.
You’ve had some weird, prudish SO’s then, thats perfectly normal and if a woman i was dating was that controlling, I would be out the door.
I’m surprised you see it as prudish not wanting your SO lusting for and jerking off to other women having sex. Why not attend strip clubs too. Watching some women dance is tamer than watching them have sex.
And I’ve never had a SO who would be against me going to strip clubs either. That seems prudish as well.
When you grow up you realize the world isn’t quite so black and white.
I’m not sure how much more nuance there can be than ‘most people arent ok with it, but I get it if you and your wife are’