Nobody tells me what I’m going to do or where I will be going and when that happens
I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat
The fundamental error in my opinion (we are all implicated in this to an extent cuz we don’t come out of the box necessarily “knowing” it) is this notion of anyone being entitled and unreservedly owed anyone else’s
Like obviously if you make a committment to someone or there is an implied non-opt-outtable one that still has the color of your consent or legal liabillity for etc, thats different.
Simplest rule I do is