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I live with my parents (both). I have job.
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I did my share duty: I help pay family electricity/water bill, pay my brothers tution fee.
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Currently, my salary is multiple time my living cost, so I can save more than half of my salary (no pay rent, no marry, no children)
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My mum has a brotehr who is not financial stable. She help him (few time yearly, not one time, but yearly). She is very stress about this situation. => when she ask me and my dad to chip in, we both said nope, then ask her to give up on that money black hole. => really hurt our family relationship, because she refuse to do so.
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That dude (my uncle) have family he has to support. If I chip in with my own salary, his children living standard will increase, they will have better future. It will cost me my spare salary (i will not able save like, 50% of my salary per month)
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But I don’t want to waste money. That money give away is like charity that I can never get back. I don’t want to piggy back few dude on my back for years.
So, how do you think on this case.
This kind of question is what AmITheAsshole is for. So far our Lemmyverse AITA is all bot-mirrored content from Reddit. You ought to cross-post this question over there.
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I have solution for you, depending on your cousin’s age, make sure he’s mature and you give money to him directly.
Skip over the black whole and help the ones that really (probably) could use a hand