Not irrational or emotional persay. But a woman most likely yes.

Please point to where in that comment I attacked their personality? I said they were probably a woman based on them saying something else in anothe comment. That’s it.

Yeah I don’t delete comments or posts as I don’t believe in trying to hide anything. Especially if I still stand by what I said. And I still do. I have never seen a guy say that about anyone but I have seen women say those things to men and untold number of times. I’m sure there are men out there that attack someone’s personality without knowing them, but I have never personally seen it. Hence me saying I was fairly confident in my comment there.

I mean my “misogynistic comment” was basically just me saying that women are typically the ones I see making that type of specific verbal attack.

No different than someone saying they think men are bad at listening in certain contexts which I can pretty much guarantee nobody would report or get banned for in any way for saying.

Like the other comment said. Chill.

Yeah same community

They as in that person? It’s a gender neutral term. Are you taking the piss?

That was just one of them. They had one or two other ones. One was hoping I got hit by a bus and the other was suffocating I think? I might have that one mixed up for something else.

I am unaware of any way to tell which mod specifically issued the ban so I apologize

You’ll have to forgive my lack of Lemmy knowledge idk how to see which mod issues the bans.

Nah I don’t give a shit about the community I am/was just flabbergasted that they rate a misogynistic comment as worse than death threats.

That’s just insane.

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This is unfortunately a very common thing that women pull. I have a lot of “handy” skills and I have had multiple women pretend to be interested in the hopes that I would fix something in their apartment for them.

I cannot fathom pretending to be interested in someone just to use them like that. It’s really quiet dehumanizing and then for so many people to cheer that behavior on is disgusting. Not really a mystery people aren’t lining up to go on dates these days.

Anyone who lives in California can tell you regulations are part of the reason it’s so expensive to do anything here. You think that high speed rail line from LA to SF actually costs as much as they claim? That shit inflated out of control primarily because of all the permits and licensing and fees they had to deal with. Every time they gave a price estimate update the price has doubled and it was/is ridiculous.

I find it really funny when the same people who want the high speed rail so badly also don’t see any issues with the rampant regulations and governmental fuckery.

Like the other comment said you’re reading into it a bit much.

And I would feel fairly confident that the commenter was a woman because attacking someones personality (that they don’t know at all) is typically done by women. If they don’t like something you said they tend to tell you that you have a crap personality or a tiny dick.

So I am open to being wrong about that commenter, but I would feel comfortable putting a gentlemans bet of 1 dollar that it was left by a woman.

Yeah but typically that conversation comes after days of texting/calling to get to know them somewhat. It’s not like I’m gonna match with someone and immediately ask them if they are comfortable splitting the bill on the first date. Maybe I should just ask that right out of the gate to avoid wasting time. Idk.

It’s the constant lost progress that wears you down. You’re carrying the conversation and keeping it fun while half the women are dry and give short answers to everything because they are messaging back the 20 other guys who all matched with them that day. So you put in the effort to try and stand out only to find out the night before a date or when a date is first brought up that they aren’t compatible. It’s just draining on you after enough times.

So either myself and all other other single men I talk to about this all have terrible luck or there is some sort of shift that’s happened in the last ~10 years and it’s finally getting so bad that others are picking up on it.

I was in a relationship or dating in one form or another from the age of like 14 until I was ~27. Only in the last 6-7 years did it get really bad.

I think it’s a combination of a lot of things but ultimately it’s become a numbers game and most guys just don’t want to put up with the bullshit anymore. Especially in this economy many dudes are just checking out. Not only from dating but basically everything.

First of all: *Your

Secondly: Yikes bro. You made a LOT of assumptions and pretty much all of them were wrong.

I don’t really give a shit about sex. At least that’s not my goal when dating. I am looking for someone that is kind, thoughtful and curious. Someone who is intellectually stimulating and emotionally mature.

I could call up pretty much any of my exes and get sex if that’s all I was after. I am just looking for genuine human connection.

When my choices are expend time, energy and money just to be taken advantage of/toyed with or sit at home and be at peace with myself I’m gonna take the peace every time now.

If you went fishing for years and never caught anything except toxic sludge at some point you just stop fishing. Spend that time and energy on something else. That’s where most men are at these days. And yeah some of those guys are just unrealistic assholes, but most of them really aren’t.

Personally I am just living my life. If I happen to bump into someone and hit it off I won’t fight it, but I’m not going to actively spend my time, money and energy looking anymore.

Splitting the bill on the first date is possible with the right women, but for a lot of women the second you mention it they get offended and/or ghost you. I would say ~30% are open to splitting the bill for the first date and the rest find it to be a huge turn off or they will legitimately get mad.

I have had women call me broke and tell me to delete their number when I suggest we split the first date bill before hand. I mean it weeds out the bad ones early but it still sucks.